Porn Is Lying To You
Let’s just call it out: porn sets you up to fail.
It paints a picture of sex that’s disconnected from love, relationship, and reality. It distorts your view of women. It distorts your view of yourself. And worse—it sabotages your ability to have real intimacy, both with a partner and with God.
Porn sells a fantasy. It tells you that sex should always be instant, wild, and without limits. That women are always available, always interested, and always ready to fulfill your every desire. And that you, as a man, should be able to perform like a machine—endlessly confident, always in control, with no emotional need, no spiritual depth, and no insecurity.
And if you don’t measure up—whether that’s penis size, stamina, sexual acts, or confidence—you’re left feeling like less of a man. Less desirable. Less capable. Shame creeps in. Insecurity grows. And rather than press into real relationship, we pull away.
Because we’re afraid we’ll never be enough.
Porn Teaches You to Run from Real Intimacy
Here’s the trap: porn creates expectations that no real woman—and no real man—can live up to. So when you finally find yourself in a real relationship, your mind starts comparing. The fantasy vs. the real.
And when she doesn’t match the scripted, airbrushed fantasy?
You disconnect.
When you don’t feel confident or capable enough to live up to what you've seen?
You withdraw.
Porn conditions you to look for intensity, not intimacy. But the real thing? Real intimacy is slow. It takes patience, vulnerability, and selflessness. It doesn’t always come with fireworks—but it does come with depth, trust, and connection.
And because porn teaches us to expect the fantasy and avoid the uncomfortable, we choose pixels over people. Control over vulnerability. Fantasy over reality.
But the Damage Doesn’t Stop There
It doesn’t just affect your relationships with women.
It starts to affect your intimacy with God too.
Shame tells you that you’re too far gone. That God’s disappointed. That your sin disqualifies you from closeness with Him. So you avoid prayer. You skip the Word. You stop showing up with your heart.
That distance from God only fuels the cycle. You feel empty. You feel alone. You run back to porn for a quick hit of validation or control. But it leaves you emptier than before.
And the spiral continues.
Here’s the Truth: You Were Never Meant to Measure Up to a Fantasy
God didn’t create you to live in comparison, shame, or sexual confusion. He created you for truth, love, and real connection. He created you with the capacity for intimacy, not just sexual stimulation. He gave you a heart, not just hormones.
And He sees you right now. In the struggle. In the shame.
And He says, "You are not too far gone."
There’s a Way Out—and It’s Found in the Truth
At JourneyMen, we walk with men who are done living under the weight of porn’s lies. We help uncover the root causes of porn addiction—shame, insecurity, broken identity—and help men rebuild their lives on God’s truth, not fantasy.
We don’t offer quick fixes. But we do offer real mentoring, honest conversations, healing, accountability, and biblical tools that lead to real freedom.
If you’re tired of the impossible standard...
If you’re done avoiding intimacy because of fear, shame, or insecurity...
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We’re here. Let’s talk.
Porn is lying to you. Jesus is not. Choose truth. Choose freedom. Choose the narrow way.
